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1. THIS DAY IN WORLD WAR 2 (3rd December
1943)
On the Russian Front...
Soviet Byelorussian Front captures Dovsk
In Yugoslavia...
A Partisan delegation departs for the Second Cairo Conference
In Italy...
British 8th Army captures Lanciano, reaches the Moro River, and attacks Orsogna
US 5th Army continues attacking at Monte Camino, Monte la Difensa, Monte Pantano, and other German positions
In Egypt...
Beginning of the Second Cairo Conference between Churchill, Roosevelt and Chiang Kai-shek
In the Atlantic...
US vessel Touchet is sunk by U-193
In the Pacific...
Japanese vessel Azuma Maru is sunk by USN submarine Tinosa
In China...
Heavy fighting continues in Changte
Today's Air Raids...
Leipzig, Germany by RAF Bomber Command
North Sea Minelaying by RAF Bomber Command
Sibenik, Yugoslavia by US 12th Air Force
Italy German front line and rear by US 12th Air Force
Casale Airfield, Italy by US 15th Air Force
Bonis, Kieta and military targets, Bougainville Island by US 13th Air Force
Finschhafen and military targets, New Guinea by US 5th Air Force
Cape Gloucester, New Britain by US 5th Air Force
2. TODAY IN MY LIFE
Blogging/Bookwriting
Housework
Missus Time
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3. TODAY'S SELF-OBSERVATION
Oh dear. The Manchester trip was a complete disaster. It was a long shot to begin with, and not succeeding would have been acceptable in itself. However, Son was humiliated by his glaring deficiencies in music theory. The misery was then greatly compounded at the coach station. Due to poor signage and communication on the part of the coach station, and some naive complacency by myself, we had to watch our coach drive out without us, the driver ignoring my pleas to let us on.
Unfortunately the combination of being completely unprepared for this turn of events and my sensitivity to both injustice and failure caused me to completely lose it. Rather myself than supporting Son through a tough defeat, he was now having to cope with a Father out of his mind.
Sanity very gradually returned, and thankfully, the following departure two hours later led to a smooth journey home, but mutual awkward embarrassment and humiliation meant that it was a very uncomfortable journey indeed. We parted company awkwardly at home as Son retreated to his room to lick his wounded pride. Missus, bless her, returned from an evening out to offer nothing but sympathy and comfort.
It has been a long time since I felt so utterly defeated on a material, personal ans spiritual level - a complete epic fail! It is a moment for the healer to counsel himself. There are positives. My training did eventually kick in. Focusing on breathing, I re-grounded myself, and I did not exact vengeance upon the somewhat unhelpful staff, especially on the coach driver who stranded us, who happened to be at Bradford Interchange when we got there. My responsibility to loved ones overrode my deathwish. Also I have been able to introspect and reflect after the event.
The most painful aspect of the defeat is to have gone down in Son's estimation. However I can only be me - I am vulnerable and can be crushed by certain circumstances, but that doesn't make me worthless as a Father.
It is now important to respond to defeat in the best manner. As the Dalai Lama says: when you lose, do not lose the lesson. Having dropped to this particular square in the snakes and ladders game of life, it is from this square I need to move on from.
4. TODAY'S QUESTION FOR YOU
How do you respond to defeat?
5. TODAY'S WEATHER IN BRADFORD
Dry and cloudy throughout, with a moderate south-westerly wind
Max Temp = 7 degC
Min Temp = 4 degC
Sunrise at 08:04
Sunset at 15:49
6. TODAY'S ONELINER
How do you stop a chav from smoking? As soon as he's dead, put down the flamethrower and throw water over him : D
7. NOW THAT'S FUNNY!
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