TUESDAY 12th NOVEMBER 2013 09:27 GMT

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1. THIS DAY IN WORLD WAR 2 (12th November 1943)
On the Russian Front...
Soviet 1st Ukrainian Front captures Zhitomir and Korostychev
Soviet 52nd Army successfully attacks across the Dniepr River at Cherkassy

In the Black Sea...
German vessel Theoderich sunk by Soviet submarine M-111



In the Mediterranean...
Kampfgruppe of German 22nd Infantry Division lands by sea on Leros Island and attacks British 234th Infantry Brigade. German paratroops are dropped in by air in support

In Lebanon...
The French declare martial law after civil unrest

In Tunisia...
The Luftwaffe establishes a secret landing strip and radio station at Wadi Tamet 

In the Atlantic...
U-508 is sunk by USN aircraft
Roosevelt departs for Cairo aboard USN battleship Iowa
Churchill departs for Cairo aboard battlecruiser HMS Renown

In the Pacific...
Japanese vessel No. 11 Misago Maru is sunk by USN submarine Harder
Japanese vessel Muko Maru is sunk by USN submarine Thresher 

IJN cruiser Agano, withdrawing to Truk after being damaged at Rabaul, further damaged by USN submarine Scamp

NZ 8th Infantry Brigade completes the clearing of Mono Island, south of Bougainville Island

Remnants of IJN aircraft detached from carriers Zuikaku, Shokaku, Zuiho, Junyo, Hiyo, and Ryuho are withdrawn from Rabaul on New Britain

In the Indian Ocean...
IJN submarine I-34 sunk by RN submarine Taurus

Today's Air Raids...
Northern France by RAF 2nd Tactical Air Force
Berat-Kucove airfield and oil refinery, Albania by US 12th Air Force
Darwin, Australia by Japanese aircraft, the last ever raid on the city.
Finschhafen and Saidor, New Guinea by US 5th Air Force
Surabaya, Java by US 5th Air Force
Ambon Island by US 5th Air Force
Yoyang, China by US 14th Air Force

2. TODAY IN MY LIFE 
Blogging
Revan The Cat to the vets (again!)  
Bookwriting
Son Time
Me Time
Missus Time

Twitter Followers = 1,695 (down 1)
Nonfollowed eliminated = 1
Unfollowers eliminated = 0
New followers = 0  

3. TODAY'S SELF-OBSERVATION
When you've had an emotional trauma, of which I've survived several, a certain amount of focus and concentration is needed to stop it coming back to haunt you! Because the memories and the emotions they arouse are intense, it's all-too-easy to keep re-living them.

At the root of this is a profound disappointment over the difference between what you intended or wanted and how it actually turned out. Certain relationships should be loving and caring, and you should be supported in certain situations, and the reality was quite different! The thing that really hurts is having to cope with unreasonable people on your own, with no one else believing, understanding or caring how difficult it is. It particularly hurts when the unreasonable people are those who should actually care about you but are instead more interested in their own agendas.

I know that bad things happen to innocent people, and that for some things work out according to expected cultural norms, and for others they don't. Your circumstances are not a reflection of your worth. However there can be so many things that trigger memories of what you didn't get, and occasionally those bad memories are evoked.

I have learned in such times to find time and space to myself and refocus my concentration. It transpires that mental wellbeing and robustness all depends on your ability to focus your mind in the right places. If I am upset, then I am focusing on the wrong thing. In such times I "go home" - I take my awareness back to that place of inner stillness, let go of that which isn't, then refocus my attention on the next objective. 

4. TODAY'S QUESTION FOR YOU
Is your attention on the right thing?

5. TODAY'S WEATHER IN BRADFORD
Dry and sunny, and clear skies throughout
A moderate westerly will ease and turn south-westerly overnight 
Max Temp = 8 degC
Min Temp = 5 degC
Sunrise at 07:27
Sunset at 16:14

6. TODAY'S ONELINER
Contact lens problem? You need a contact lens solution! : D

7. NOW THAT'S FUNNY!
David Mitchell's unnoteworthy appearance 

8. TRIVIA
A single cup of ice cream has more cholesterol than 10 glazed donuts.

9. ZEN WISDOM
Everything depends on what is in our hearts. If we decide to ourselves that something is impossible, then, consistent with our minds in thinking so, even something that is possible for us will become impossible.