TUESDAY 7th JANUARY 2014 08:19 GMT

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1. THIS DAY IN WORLD WAR 2 (7th January 1944)
On the Russian Front...
Soviet 5th Guards Tank Army attacks German XLVII Panzer Korps and fights its way into into Kirovograd

In France...
The French Resistance interrupts the power supply to the arsenal at Tulle 

In Italy...
US 5th Army captures Monte Porchia, Monte La Chiaia, and Monte Majo

In Albania...
German anti-partisan forces open a major offensive in the Vlore-Berate-Korce triangle

In the Atlantic...
RN frigate HMS Tweed is sunk by U-305 

In the Pacific...
Japanese vessel Katsuragisan Maru is sunk by mine off Truk Atoll 
Japanese vessel No. 3 Fushimi Maru sunk by USN submarine Kingfish off the East Indies
Vichy French vessel Kai Ping is sunk by USAAF aircraft off Indochina 

General Hubert Harmon takes command of US 13th Air Force

In New Guinea...
General Adachi of the Japanese 18th Army is evacuated from Sio by IJN submarine I-177

In Tokyo...
Imperial General Headquarters approves the Burma Area Army's plans for the invasion of India to capture Imphal area

In Burma...
In the Arakan, Indian 5th Infantry Division advances south toward Razabil, west of the Mayu Range 

Today's Air Raids...
Ludwigshafen, Germany by US 8th Air Force
Cherbourg, France by US 9th Air Force
Northern France on V-Weapons sites by RAF 2nd Tactical Air Force
Maribor, Yugoslavia by US 15th Air Force
Perugia and rail-marashalling yards, Italy by US 12th Air Force
Fiume, Italy by US 15th Air Force
Alexishafen, Madang and military targets in New Guinea by US 5th Air Force
Cape St.George, New Ireland by US AirSols
Cape Gloucester and military targets, New Britain by US 5th Air Force
Rabaul, New Britain by US 5th Air Force, US AirSols and RAAF
Lorengau, Manus Island by US 5th Air Force
Boela, Ceram Island by uS 5th Air Force
Yangtze River shipping, China by US 14th Air Force
Lanywa and Nanyaseik, Burma by US 10th Air Force

2. TODAY IN MY LIFE
Blogging 
The Milk Run
Housework
Me Time
Son Time
Bookwriting and online promotional work
Missus Time

Twitter Followers = 1,698 (down 3)
Nonfollowed eliminated = 1
Unfollowers eliminated = 2
@LeannJianfranc, @Crestallwaves  New followers = 0

3. TODAY'S SELF-OBSERVATION
I would love to be able to just shrug my shoulders and accept the breakdown with my relationship with Daughter then simply move on, but that's not possible in my case as we share her mother. This inevitably means that the mud of the past often gets stirred up into my present-day experience. Missus, bless her, is very even-handed, but deeply-narcissistic Daughter cannot see past her own hatred and anger and consequently her distorted one-sided view of me. 

Furthermore, like it or not, I get continually reminded of it through unasked-for feedback from Missus. There's always trouble between them if I come up in conversation, so I inevitably get the gist of the conversation. My dreams last night were troubled and my emotions first thing this morning were melancholy.

At such time my training kicks in. Negative emotions are a cue that my focus is in the wrong place. The first response is acceptance - there is nothing I can do about the past or Daughter's view of it. There is also no possibility of reviving a relationship that is dead. My attention therefore needs to be on the relationships that ARE working, and the difference I CAN make. 

Of course, the situation with Daughter will inevitably continue to rear its head and sometimes get to me. When it does, I will simply repeat this process: pause, accept, let go and refocus.

4. TODAY'S QUESTION FOR YOU
How do you cope with your loss or bereavement?

5. TODAY'S WEATHER IN BRADFORD
Blustery showers with clear intervals throughout morning and evening.
There will be a window of dry weather overnight
A moderate to strong south-westerly will blow throughout
Max Temp = 7 degC
Min Temp = 6 degC
Sunrise at 08;23
Sunset at 16:04

6. TODAY'S ONELINER
I accidentally swallowed some food colouring, and dyed a little inside

7. NOW THAT'S FUNNY! 
QI - Ben Miller blinds with science

8. TRIVIA
In Ancient Rome, redheaded slaves were prized as exotic and cost more money to buy

9. ZEN WISDOM
Nonviolence is the supreme act of courage - to stand your ground with no weapon.