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1. THIS DAY IN WORLD WAR 2 (9th February 1945)
On the Russian Front...
Kriegsmarine cruiser Admiral Scheer, a destroyer, and three torpedo boats support German 4th Army around Frauenburg
70th Army of Soviet 2nd Byelorussian Front captures Thorn
U-923 is sunk by a mine in the Baltic
In the Soviet Union...
Yalta Conference Day 6
North Sea...
U-864 sunk by RN submarine Venturer off Stavanger, Norway
On the Western Front...
Canadian 1st Army captures Mehr, Niel, Keeken, Milligen, and Nuetterden
US 1st Army begins a final push toward the Schwammenauel dam
US 3rd Army captures Neuendorf, Gondenbrett, Hermespand, and Nieder Mehlen
US 7th Army is fighting house-to-house in Oberhoffen
French 1st Army completes the destruction of German 19th Army in the Colmar pocket
Italy...
Canadian I Corps begins withdrawing for transfer to join Canadian 1st Army on the Western Front
US 5th Army is fighting localized actions in the Serchio valley and along Cinquale canal
South America...
Ecuador declares war on Germany and Japan
In the Pacific...
Admiral Thomas C. Hart retires and is appointed US Senator for Connecticut
Japanese vessel No. 177 Nanshin Maru is sunk by USN PV-1 aircraft
IJN escort vessel No. 61 is written off by a mine in the South China Sea
Japanese vessel Hekisui Maru is sunk by USN aircraft off Formosa
On Luzon, US 6th Army attacks Zigzag pass and is fighting in Manila against heavy resistance
11th Airborne Division of US 8th Army is attacking Nichols Field south of Manila
Burma...
Indian 15th Corps captures Ramree town on Ramree Island
Today's Air Raids...
Antwerp, Belgium by six V-2 rockets
Lutzkendorf, Arnsberg, Paderborn, Magdeburg, Bielefeld, Weimar, Dulmen and targets of opportunity in Germany by US 8th Air Force
Moosbierbaum, Graz, and Bruck, Austria by US 15th Air Force
London by eight V-2 rockets
Truk Atoll by US 20th Air Force
Corregidor Island by US FEAF
Iwo Jima by US 7th Air Force
Tsingtao Airfield, China by Chinese and American fighters, claiming 100 Japanese fighters destroyed on the ground
Burma Japanese positions, supply dumps, transportation lines, and other targets around Bawgyo, Inailong, Tangtong, Man Mau, Se-u, Mansam, Panghai, Naland, Man Hpatwith, and Tonglau and Ke-hsi Mansam bridges by US 10th Air Force
2. TODAY IN MY LIFE
Blogging
The Milk Run
Housework
Me Time
The Monday Roast
Client consultation and follow up
Missus Time
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3. TODAY'S SELF-OBSERVATION
My least favourite thing about being a carer for a mentally-ill wife is the necessity to be a parent on occasion - telling her NO, going into her things and tidying them, overriding her wishes and using subterfuge. I take absolutely no pleasure in any of this, but it's absolutely necessary for her wellbeing.
As far as I possibly can I treat her as a loving wife and partner, and for extended periods of time I can forget I'm a carer. I give her as much choice and freedom as I safely can. When I do have to be parental I'm often filled with a deep lonely sadness. Only I can do it - I am best qualified by vast experience, by caring the most and by being on-the-spot.
This is all hard enough, but I also have to defend her against external threats that make it even more difficult. In the past this has been healthcare professionals who are so obsessed with the patient and patient's rights that they exclude and make more difficult the life of the one who actually genuinely cares every day.
This threat has receded as Missus' condition has stabilized, but an ongoing threat is Daughter. This is highly distressing - Daughters are generally caring for mothers - not this one! This one expects to be cared FOR. Daughter without hesitation or conscience will vent all her frustrations on her mother, will gladly exploit her mother's generosity to extract money we don't have to give, will sulk and wage psychological warfare on her mother and make absolutely no allowances for the fact that her mother has a severe mental illness. And all this on one who only wants to love her Daughter unconditionally.
At best, on a good day when she is in a good mood, she will be civil to her mum - which is as close as she gets to caring. As far as I am concerned, she is a parasite who cannot be removed without killing the host, so my intervention is limited to when this ghastly individual makes her mum cry or attempts to extort money.
Words cannot express the profound disappointment in having a daughter who has turned out to be so awful, my only consolation being a Son who is the complete opposite - a generous warm-hearted delight.
I think therefore that this character has the right on occasion to feel lonely, to shed a few unseen tears and to unleash the full power of my Dark Side on would-be predators. but there are compensations aside from Son - Missus worships me - which is kinda nice. Also I get a lot more freedom to do my thing than other husbands enjoy, and a host of domestic creature-comforts.
Distressing things and challenges notwithstanding, there is still much for which to express gratitude.
4. TODAY'S QUESTION FOR YOU
Are you responding in the right way to the challenges you face?
5. TODAY'S WEATHER IN BRADFORD
Dry cool and cloudy throughout
A moderate north-westerly wind will veer westerly in the late evening
Max Temp = 5 degC
Min Temp = 3 degC
Sunrise at 07:39
Sunset at 17:04
Moon:
Weathertrack: High Pressure centred off the Irish coast will keep Britain cool and dry
Air Pressure: 1037 millibars and falling slightly
6. TODAY'S ONELINER
The dyslexic devil-worshipper sold his soul to Santa :D
7. NOW THAT'S FUNNY!
Al Murray on the Romans
8. TRIVIA
Human babies are the only primates who smile at their parents.
9. ZEN WISDOM
If a person has just one good friend, their happiness is doubled and their life immeasurably enriched. This is genuine wealth.
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